Grandparents Hurt Too!

As a grandparent of an aborted child, you may be experiencing a deep pain. You may be remembering the aloneness you felt when faced with your child's pregnancy. You may share your sense of inadequacy when, after the fact, you discovered that an abortion had been chosen. You may remember your concern for your daughter or son and your desire for them to be free to move on with their lives. And you sometimes remember your disappointment and perhaps anger at the fact that your child's life took an unexpected turn such as this. And sometimes you remember the deeply personal loss of your grandchild. You might express a sense of disappointment that your child made this decision without consulting you. Sometimes you may express anger over the turn of events.

Grandparents often describe their experience in these terms:

• Sadness
• Anger
• Worried
• Grieving
• Loss of a dream for their child
• Grandmothers may carry the burden alone if they encouraged the abortion in order not to tell the grandfathers.
• Grandfathers particularly may be filled with rage and may act it out through involvement in the pro-life movement.
• "Where did we go wrong? Where did we fail him/her? Why couldn't they tell us?"
• Sense of failure
• May carry the burden of the abortion decision if they actively encouraged or forced the abortion.
• Desire to make their daughter or son get "better" if they see her/him grieving or struggling.
• Feelings of inadequacy in discussing abortion and its aftermath with their son or daughter.

We are sorry for your loss and we encourage you to begin your healing journey. By allowing yourself to grieve and heal you will be ready in the future to journey with your child as they resolve the abortion loss. If you are hurting, call 866.482.LIFE today or check out our weekend healing retreats.